Why Am I Having These Thoughts?

Introducing Topic Tuesday’s!

Today’s topic is intrusive thoughts.

What’s an intrusive thought?

It’s an involuntary thought, image, or idea that is unpleasant and unwanted. These thoughts can be hard to get rid of and can become obsessive.

It’s important to know that if you get them, you are not a bad person. And, YES, everyone gets them! These thoughts are not invited by you, they just happen.

I’ve suffered from intrusive thoughts for ten years. There was a time, when I was able to manage these thoughts. However, I began to endure obsessive thoughts that needed psychiatric treatment.

If you have suffer from intrusive thoughts, what are some tools that you recommend for others, to help stop them?

One tool that I found helpful was to write the intrusive thought out and my fears about the thought. Then, I would write down reasons why it would not happen in real life.

For more information, check out this informative article on intrusive thoughts: Intrusive Thoughts

[Disclaimer:Please remember that these tools are for self help! Sometimes, these techniques do not help. Treatment options are available and recommended!]

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The Time That You Require

I am not ashamed to say that I am thirty-one years old. I am ashamed to say, that for the first time, I went to a salon. In the past, I would have never allowed myself to spend that type of money or use that time, alone, without my children. It’s cliche, but my mom guilt would take over. There would be a slew of reasons that took priority, in my mother’s mind. At that moment, I could count five reasons that would seep into the guilt and take priority. Can’t we all? There is no time in our life that something isn’t needed or required of us.
take care of yourself
As parents, partners, and beings, our time is up for grabs. As the hourglass runs out of sand, so do our bodies. Each granule of sand that falls brings a weight upon our shoulders. There are many moments, when I have nothing left to give and am expected to continue. Truthfully, I start to become angry or short tempered. Anxiety and annoyance increase. The need for self care has surpassed and is detrimental.
Why are we waiting to care for ourselves at the last moment? Why is it viewed as selfish, when we stop to care for none other than ourself? Because we are women. We are expected to be nurturing to others, yet, aren’t allowed to nurture ourselves. It’s a societal pressure.

 Audre Lorde stares, “I have come to believe that caring for myself is not indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.” And she is right. Self care is surviving.

We must remember, that all things need to be nourished. Self Care doesn’t require money, but it requires time. Time that we all need to heal our soul and mind from the chaos of the daily grind.