Can you relate to this mom?
Society is great at gathering an image of what a mom should be. How she should look, how she should act, and more. There are categories made that have us trying to figure out where we fit. Am I a trendy mom, soccer mom, overachiever mom? The pressure is built up within our own minds to find the perfect category & balance.
This is what I’m figuring out. And, I’ve only been a mom for 5 years, but screw the categories and labels. Screw the pressure that’s from society or even the pressure that we festered into our minds from all articles, ads, movies, & celebrities that showcase what a “real mother” is.
I don’t need the added strain. I’m still trying to figure out who I am as an individual, let alone a mother. But, there is one thing I do know. I’m a great mother. Yeah, I have depression. So what?! It’s not untreated or unnoticed. Okay, I suck at laundry. Meals aren’t always prepared on time. Baths are skipped, diapers are on a little longer than needed, towels are thrown over pee stains at night, my floors are a bit sticky, the dishwasher is full of clean dishes with a sink full of dirty dishes, and my hair isn’t always clean.
But, here’s the beauty. My children aren’t going to remember *most* of those moments. They’ll remember the moments of splashing paint all over the table while making a masterpiece, the “crystals” we found outside, the impromptu dance sessions, the ice cream cones before dinner, the magical forts, and the smiles, love, and laughter.
Yeah, I know. They’ll remember my epic parenting fails. But don’t you? Isn’t that what growing up is about? Learning from your parents’ epic fails and amazing parenting moments. We are all just trying to figure it. It may not be nice, but we aren’t here forever. Screw the pressure and enjoy being who you are.